God’s Best

Gods Best

God has a goal for you. And His best for you is so much more than you could ever begin to conceive or imagine. But to get there you have to follow the map, you have to play by the rules, you have to stay “in bounds.”

To sin is to break His rules, which He put in place to help keep us safe, so that we can learn, and grow, and mature into adulthood.

When we sin, we fall short of His best for us.

What is God’s Best?

Have you ever set a fire in your living room?


Are you sure?

Do you have a fireplace?

Have you ever built a fire in it?

Then you have set a fire in your living room.

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Now, think back to what you pictured in your mind when I first asked the question. Did you picture setting your living room carpet on fire? Or pushing back the coffee table and building a campfire in the middle of the floor? That would be ridiculous, wouldn’t it?

Now picture the fireplace. Why is it OK to build a fire in your living room if it’s in a fireplace?

Because it’s a box of fireproof blocks, with a chimney attached that allows the exhaust from the fire to escape.

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Having a fire in the room is a great thing—this time of year, especially. It provides warmth and light, a cozy feeling for those gathered around. You can cook things on it, from full dinners to roasted marshmallows. Of course, all of that goodness would go right up in smoke if it left its boundaries of the fireplace.

It’s a good thing we have boundaries there to keep us safe, while we enjoy all of its benefits.

God’s rules are the fireplace of our lives, keeping things in their proper boundaries. God’s best is that we can enjoy the benefits and avoid the dangers.

But we think we know better.

Sin is Progressive

Once isn’t going to hurt anyone.

What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.

It’s just the way I am. I can’t help myself.

If it feels good, do it.

I’ve got to follow my heart.

But I have needs that aren’t being met.

Ever used one of those excuses to justify doing something you knew was wrong? {Raising my hand.}

But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires… —James 1:12a

Yep, we’re drawn away when we let our desires tempt us; when we lead with our hearts.

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it? —Jeremiah 17:9

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One way we let our hearts deceive us is believing the lie that “this is who I am.” We start believing that we’re not capable of undoing bad habits, of unlearning destructive behaviors, or choosing to do things differently than we always have.

There’s an exchange in the movie Fireproof that hits very close to home.

CALEB: What? You were married to someone before Tina?


MICHAEL: For one whole year. I got married for the wrong reasons, then I turned around and got a divorce for the wrong reasons. Man, I thought I was just following my heart.


CALEB: Michael, I have worked with you for 5 years. You’ve never told me that.


MICHAEL: Because I’m not proud of it! It was before I gave my life to the Lord. Man, I was only concerned about my rights and my needs. Man, I ruined her life. But when I gave my life to God, I tried to find her but she’d already remarried. So believe me when I tell you I got a big scar. Man, God meant marriage to be for life. That’s why you gotta keep your vows to Catherine. You gotta beg God to teach you to be a good husband. And don’t just follow your heart, man; ’cause your heart can be deceived. But you gotta lead your heart.

That was me. I was Michael. (And Caleb, too, if you’ve seen the movie.)

I was walking my own path. Doing what I thought was right. Blaming Amy for things that weren’t working. And convincing myself that she alone was to blame for everything that was wrong in our marriage.

I just about flushed it down the toilet.

The future of our marriage was set in stone, a gravestone.

But God stepped in and changed me, changed Amy, changed our marriage, and changed history.

But God…

Your Turn

When have you followed your heart and regretted it?

How do you lead your heart?

How have you experienced the progressiveness of sin?

How can we be praying for you?

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