About four years ago we went through some really difficult times in our lives. Our energy was low, we were tired, and at times we got a bit grumpy with each other.
I was irritated, tired, stressed-out, and started having trouble seeing the best in my husband.
How about you? Have you ever gone through a time like this?
Every marriage goes through its ups and downs—it’s part of life. But what is harmful is when we take out our frustrations on one another.
We had gone through such a time, but I didn’t want to allow hard times to translate into trouble for our marriage, so I began asking the Lord to show me what I can do to help us through the rough spot we were enduring.
I kept praying, and the answer finally came on New Year’s Day 2010.
The Prayer Project
I was praying again, mostly about what my goals should be for the coming year, and the Lord turned my heart toward my husband:
What if my New Year’s resolution was to pray just three things for my husband daily?
Those three things were that the Lord would:
2. Prosper, and
3. Show Favor
…to my husband: first in God’s eyes, then in our eyes, then at work, then with everyone and in every situation he would find himself.
What a journey it has been!
What I never expected was the complete change, for the better, in my heart.
Through God’s eyes I could see Jim Bob’s struggles and stress more clearly. I could see how much he needed my support. My eyes were opened to how much Jim Bob simply needed me to be his best friend, confidante, and prayer-warrior through the rough spots (and always, really).
In short, when this prayer project began, I was praying for my husband but the Lord started with me.
The work within my heart was essential. If I couldn’t see Jim Bob’s world from his perspective, how would I be able to pray effectively for him? How would I know how best to pray? How could I truly empathize?
Start praying these things for your spouse, and you will see what I mean: the change MUST start with YOU.
Over the last few years of praying this daily for my sweet man, we’ve seen God do some pretty incredible things.
Yes, miracles DO still happen.
Does your marriage feel like this sometimes? (Even if you’re not fighting out loud, is this what’s going on in your head?)
Are you ready for CHANGE? Let us know how we can be praying for you.