Your marriage is under attack.
I’m not talking about the concept of marriage or the political definition of marriage. I’m talking about YOUR marriage.
The enemy of your soul doesn’t want your marriage to thrive. The world doesn’t care about your marriage.
But the biggest danger to your marriage is your lack of protecting it.
“The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” —Proverbs 14:1
(The same goes for men.)
Your marriage needs your protection.
Protect it from your own selfishness, from schedules imposed by others (work, schools, friends, etc.), and from anything that draws your heart away from your spouse.
Identifying the Culprits
What can draw your heart away from your spouse?
Probably the most prevalent is family relationships.
Remember the passage above from Matthew yesterday: “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother…”
Have you left your parents? Are you relying on them for money, for a home, for guidance, etc.? Are you allowing them to control your marriage, or speak negatively about your spouse?
Honoring your father and your mother doesn’t mean letting them continue to rule your life in marriage. Remember this when your own children marry, as well… you have to let them go.
What about your job? Do you have a job that keeps you away from home too much? Either out-of-town, or just with a ridiculous commute? Do you have a job that expects you to put the priorities of the company ahead of your commitments to your family? Are you expected to stay late without notice when there’s a crisis? Is that the exception to the rule, or characteristic of the job?
What can you do to protect your marriage from your job?
Our own selfishness is the most detrimental enemy of our marriages.
Selfishness leads to extramarital affairs. I love the line from Fireproof: “You’ve got to lead your heart.” It will deceive you and lead you astray with it.
Love is a decision… specifically, it’s a decision to love another more than yourself. When we fail to do that, we can easily defraud, betray, and destroy our spouse and our marriage.
That’s why the Bible tells us to follow Jesus’ example and die to self.
You made a vow to love, honor, and cherish, your spouse until death do you part. Protecting your marriage is the most sensible way to do that.
What are the greatest threats to your marriage?
What do you do to protect your marriage against them?