“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33 ESV
As we careen into February with our focus on all things love … I must pause and take a few steps back and ask where, in truth, is my heart? Is my heart toward my hubby one of respect and honor, or one of my own self serving intentions?
Let me give you an illustration:
Our local Christian radio station was playing as we drove into town this morning for 4 *boy* haircuts. In between our favorite songs the DJ *visited* with the audience about how each time she asks her husband’s opinion on which dress she should wear, it doesn’t ever matter which one he chooses, she suddenly wants to wear the other one. She laughed and commented on how funny that was and asked if anyone else had a similar story… and of course… please, call and share.
Well, bless my children’s sweet hearts, they had no idea… but a lecture (aka … my preaching) was on its way…
I turned off the radio and said, “I just want you to know… that is what is wrong with so many marriages today. Not only do wives not respect their husbands… but they think it is funny too.”
I ranted for a few more minutes.
I preached about what Scripture says. “You know, in Ephesians it says for husbands to love their wives… but for wives to respect their husbands.”
I lectured on the curse of Eve. “Genesis tells us part of our curse is that we as wives will want to rule over our husbands.”
I fussed a bit more, then realized…
I really did need to clarify… to make certain they knew… that I am by NO MEANS even close to doing this well in my own marriage… how often do I interrupt my husband while he is speaking or question him when he is leading in a direction I wasn’t planning?
But the truth is… I WANT to… I really WANT to be respectful all the time… and I kick myself each time I mess up.
But oohh… the Lord is always so very gracious to give me another opportunity, an opportunity to be respectful to my husband… to keep my mouth shut when I really want to interrupt or interject.
So here’s my heart challenge… my desire… my commitment… if I ask my husband “Which one?”
I will go with whichever one he says. Period.
He took the time to answer me, so I am going to honor him… even if I’ve changed my mind.
So sweet Sisters… How about you? Do you struggle with this as well? Would you consider joining me in this pursuit? It is a small commitment… but it really can be easy and it will speak VOLUMES of value to our husbands.
Father God… I want to, I want to not only respect my husband, but actually show him respect. I confess, I cannot do this without you, without your Holy Spirit. Please come and work in me, work through me. Make me into the wife you desire me to be. In Your precious Name, I pray. Amen.